Hey beautiful people hope you all are doing well.
So I want to talk to y’all about something that happened a few years ago, looking back it was kind of dumb to freak out about but it was what I was going through at the time.
So a few years ago, I nearly had a breakdown due to me not being able to write or create anything for weeks possibly even a month.
Silly I know…
Why would I have an almost breakdown just because I couldn’t produce any new piece of writing?
I guess the reason for that was I was so used to writing practically everyday or every other day. I put so much of myself into my writing, it became my identity.
I remember sitting on the floor with my back against my bed and just so down a pit of despair, and then having the thought that maybe I’m as only as good as my last thing I wrote.
Y’all that was probably one of the most terrifying thoughts I’d ever had…
So what I nearly had a breakdown or something, its not like its the end of the world if I don’t produce any new writing within ten seconds of eachother.
Like I said, I made writing for my blog my identity, an idol. The fact that I wasn’t able to produce anything was scary as hell, I put so much of myself in my blog, into my writings, I worshipped writing.
I think the two things I forget to do is:
1. Take time away, come back to it later, you don’t want to force the creativity, let it flow naturally.
2. The other thing is to just breathe, just breathe, it’s okay to take a break, it’s okay to give things time.
It’s crazy because I don’t freak out as much as I used to about not producing anything, I still have my moments at times though, I’m a work in progress just like anyone else.
What’s the biggest takeaway that I’ve learned when it comes to social media and validation?
I’ve learned that social media will never be able to fix me. It won’t bring me ultimate joy, and it definitely won’t validate me as a person.
For so long I’ve always struggled with seeking validation, how I would go about it would be very sneaky, I would put myself down or tell others my songs or poetry isn’t that good compared to others.
Another thing is I’ve posting A LOT as of late, like 3 to maybe 4 posts a day. This is currently something I’ve realized about me…well really I’ve noticed this for awhile just really didn’t want to admit to myself I actually might be an Instagram addict.
In short, my idol is Instagram…
No shocker there…
I think in my case I feel like I fall under the FOMO category, fear of missing out. I’ve had this really gnarly habit of checking Instagram whenever I’m bored, and when one is bored, dangerous habits can take form and then take over your life.
Someone I interact with on Instagram said that we need to be willing to check in with ourselves before going to the screens, and I too believe that as well, its a matter of putting that into practice that makes it hard.
I heard this song from a band called ‘The Boxer Rebellion’ they have a song called “Love Yourself” and social media isn’t gonna make us love ourselves any more or any less.
Yes social media can be a great thing, in moderation, but it can unfortunately be like a drug if we aren’t careful.
Hey everyone, this post is gonna be a little different than my normal posts. I don’t know why but today I was listening to this song by a rap artist named ‘Drake.’
He has a song called ‘Money in the Grave’ and for some reason just one line in that song had got me thinking.
“When I die put my money in the grave”
The line had me thinking “wait, you can’t take the money with you when you die, so why would want to buried with money.
Someone might think I’m putting too much thought into this and maybe you’re right, but really think about it, why would want to buried with something that isn’t gonna matter in the end, in the grand scheme of things, everything on this planet is temporary and will one day go away.
Its a depressing thought to think about sometimes but it really gets us as people to think about what really matters in this life. Jesus says to not store up treasures for ourselves here on earth but to store up treasure for ourselves in heaven where no rust or moth destroy nor thieves can steal.
I’m not saying don’t have money, shoot, bank roll for all I care. I’m saying that that stuff is temporary and we can’t take it with us once we’ve passed on. We need to focus on the things that really matter rather than be so stuck on things that only bring temporary peace. I’m writing this for myself as much as I am for the next person.
Hey beautiful people, I hope you all are doing well.
So as some of you know, I write, I write songs, I write poems, and for a couple years I had another blog called ‘APLTF’ (A Poet Learning to Forgive.) I decommissioned that blog because I was writing everyday but after awhile I couldn’t come up with anything.
I have kind of loved ,and hated writing. I hate having to write if I have to, I hate having deadlines on when something should come out, I don’t like the pressure I feel that I NEED to put out something. As I’ve said before I hate forced creativity.
I just feel its way too inauthentic if I try to get something out there or force it. Its not sincere, and for a long time I feel I’ve been in a place or season where I’ve found myself force creating songs, poems etc for creativity’s sake. For from the heart.
Its a terrifying thought for me…
Writing is a struggle, its hard to explain the things I want to get across, its a struggle, yet I enjoy the struggle, the uphill battle.
Writing is a beautiful struggle…
What I’m currently learning as a creative and as a person that I NEED, ABSOLUTELY NEED to be patient in the process.